The men taking their wives' names: A new wedding trend?


American actress Zoe Saldana has responded to criticism following her husband's decision to adopt her surname after marriage. It's usually women who take their partner's name - but are things changing?
"Why is it so surprising, shocking- eventful that a man would take his wife's surname?," asks Zoe Saldana on her Facebook page.
"Men, you will not cease to exist by taking your partner's surname. On the contrary you will be remembered as a man who stood by change," she writes.
More women are keeping their surnames, or hyphenating them with their partners', but the patriarchal tradition of a man holding onto his prevails.
But times, and names, are slowly changing.
Ben Martin (nee Coghill) is one of a new breed of men, who are taking their wife's surname.
Ben Coghill changed his surname after marriage
The 32-year-old music promoter from Glasgow, Scotland, says he didn't think anything of it.
"I really liked the sound of my wife's name - Rowan Martin - and didn't want to spoil that with her changing it."
At the beginning, Ben's sister had some concerns it would be the end of the line for the family name, but she was soon won over. "I explained to her, 'what's in a name', it doesn't really matter. It wouldn't make a difference," he said.
"It shows I don't buy into this idea of patriarchy, and that I'm comfortable enough with who I am that I don't see it as anything at all."
It's difficult to know how many other men are following Ben Martin or Marco Saldana's lead because all of the research into married names focuses on a woman's decision.



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